I am fortunate to be married to a good guy. I am fortunate that this good guy has decent hours...most of the time. But the last two weeks I have been playing single mom-you know the kind that holds the full time job...not the wealthy, entitled kind that just play golf and go to lunch...because they can. The single mom gig is underprivileged and lacks all forms of glory.
I think all of us married moms, working or not need to stop and think about our fellow sisters out there who are doing this all alone. Hail to the single mom.You ROCK!
Whether it is from a divorce, out of town job or worse, doing it alone really sucks. It is hard on me, but in reality I have my guy's salary, his warm body eventually each night, and the situation is temporary. It blows to make all the meals in the day, 7 days a week, (except tonight, which is Friday, and alone...I decided to take the kids to Panera because we don't have any food and I am tired). I can only imagine how my mom did it and I wish I could thank her even more for doing such a good job at something so difficult.
I just don't know how single moms ever find anytime to relax or even more importantly think. I wish there was something we, meaning me and who ever is out there, could do to brighten and cheer on a few moms we know that have to do this all of the time. Ideas? Suggestions?
Should I make a cool card on the computer and send it out just saying simply: You Rock...we support single moms! ? I don't know, it is just another random thought before bed. Not everything people can do to make others feel worthy, loved and appreciated have to cost a lot of money, sometimes a few words are priceless.
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I too, have the utmost respect for single moms. My husband traveled occasionally and I thought it was a pain in the ass. Then he started traveling for what turned into weeks and then months. He came home almost every weekend... but still. That allowed time for a quick conjugal visit and a game of tag with the kids. At first it was hard, but then like anything- you just adapt and it actually kind-of became harder when he was home because that threw the whole "routine thing" (which I worked so hard to achieve) to the wind. But the bottom line was (like you said) it was temporary. Wether it was a few weeks, months, etc. I knew that in reality it was tempory and there would be an end. But these single moms do it all and consistently do it all knowing that this really is it. This is more than just a temporary thing. Sure they may get remarried or something but then you just add a whole new element to the pot: the blended family.
So my hats are also off to all the single moms out there. The ones that work, grocery shop, mow the lawn, take out the garbadge, help with homework, bake the birthday treats, pay the bills, refinance the house, and tuck the kids in at bedtime. You are inspiring! -Oliver
Oh and one more thing; one of my coping mechanisms was to buy a house. Yep, without my husband and yes already owning one that wasn't sold. Possibly not the smartest move but thankfully it all worked out. And no, I didn't do it without my husband being completely in the dark about it- I did email him pictures! Now, would that fall under the category of "retail therapy?"
Why yes, buying a house is definietly retail therapy, nice work.
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