I have noticed that it has been forever since my last blog. As it goes, I got real busy. I had a whole list of topics I wanted to throw out there, but I was kind of unmotivated because I can't very many responses. I know blogs are supposed to be for yourself, a tool so to speak to get your thoughts out there, an online journal, a diary. It may be that in some sense, but my ultimate goal was to unite fabulous women and to support each other and have fun. I am not a quitter, and I don't give up that easily.....so let's blog!
Topic: When it is good to be average
This is about dealing with wearing a swimsuit at a mega resort on vacation. I don't know about all of you, but I am not the most confident person in swimwear. I was blessed with a nice rack, but there is plenty of me to go around otherwise also. However, I felt the best on this trip than I have in a long time. And to be honest, I fell into the "average" group. I know that I will never be a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit model, and I hope never to be one of those ladies on the dirty birthday cards (the joke ones). Either way, being average was a good thing. More importantly, the more I looked around, it didn't matter what someone weighed, they were being themselves and having a great time. There were very heavy women wearing two pieces with the confidence of Barbie...Good for them. I am realizing that people are not sitting around judging me and that who really cares? The only one...Me. So once I kick her ass for picking on me, we're all good.
Nuts!
This was my second topic I wanted to talk about. What is the deal with peanuts and allergies? Is just about everyone allergic to these little protein powerhouses? My son who is not a meat eater unless it is smattered with batter, loves peanuts and peanut butter. So what luck do we have, he is in a "peanut free" classroom. Great. I just had gone to Trader Joe's and bought a boat load of snacks that are all peanut related. He cannot have snacks that have peanuts, okay, I just have to be careful now. He doesn't have to give up peanut butter yet at lunch because they have a "peanut free" table for the allergic kids. Someone mentioned the possibility of a peanut free school. Give me a break. Should most of the kids at an elementary school go hungry or have limited choices because a small handful of kids are legume intolerant? Shouldn't they have have special schools for the severely allergic? And what about airplanes? What do they serve on airplanes, peanuts. How could a peanut protester ever fly? They would be trapped in a poorly ventilated aircraft with peanut debris flying around. Cant' they go into anapahylactic (sp?) shock or something like that? Do they have to drive everywhere? How do they get to go to mega resorts and think I look fabulous in swimwear then? Hmm.
Dissed and Pissed: How to Cope?
I am not sure how to get over being dissed and pissed. When I feel wronged, truly wronged, not just an accident, but where it hurts, it takes me a little time to get over it. I have a very hard time hiding it also, I have tells. I am not a good poker player for that reason, and I have a severe attention problem and can't possibly think ahead like that, but that's another topic. I would like anyone to just tell me how to let go. Let go of the hurt, the desire to smack the shit out of someone and to move on. How to not let something grade on me. Or do as I just have with being dissed twice recently, let it fester until I get too busy and forget to be mad. I am not sure that is the best way, but I am taking advice. No, I am not going to blog about the actually dissing, but none of you readers who have read this before did the dastardly deeds, I just don't want it out there because I am chicken shit to have to face them about it because I don't want to do something hostile or stupid. So it is for every one's protection that the stories stay anonymous, although many of you already have heard them. Okay, ramlbing over. Done.
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About being average... average is such a subjective concept. i.e. what may be average height in Japan would be considered short in the U.S. What may be considered an average education may be considered elite in Africa, blah, blah, blah. So "average" is subjective to culture and time. I think people should like being average after all, the average majority of us are average in an average type of way.
And P.S.: I've recently seen you in swimsuit (a two piece to boot) and I thought you looked abover average.
Dissed and Pissed:
When you figure out how to let go or relieve some of the pain, let me know. It sucks to have a hurt just swirling around in your gut, eating at your thoughts and emotions.
But as a wise person once told me, "Look at the offender's motives." Was it a misunderstanding? And why not talk to the person about it. That is what I often do. It doesn't have to be confrontational, but just an awareness that you are confused/hurt and would like more information. That way you can hopefully put the issue to rest knowing you have the full story and not letting your imagination or "what ifs" get the best of you.
Keep blogging- those of us meant to be reading/responding are doing so! Oliver with a Twist of Lime
Thanks pal for the nice compliment and for the words of wisdom. I often do talk out my feelings, but these double disses are not really worth it I guess. I am not sure why I am mad, no wait, I know why I am mad, but it shouldn't have taken me so long to get over it. I do like the point of looking at the offenders motives-that's good. I guess it isn't always about me and my feelings...wait OF COURSE IT IS...and it can be because this MY VERY OWN PLACE TO VENT! he he. Time to move on to bigger and yet more fabulous and exciting topics.....hmmmm stay tuned.
By the way... what exactly is a "diss"? Being stood-up? Cut down?
Dear Oliver,
Dissed is slang/homey lingo for being dissrespected, or wronged, snubbed. You know like in, "that mother f*cker dissed me when he wuz all up in my grill an shit"
(grill meaning face, actually teeth, not the Weber kind)
g.f.d. - I venture to say you may have said it best back in August (the art of conversation). You said, "One thing I have learned over the past few years with conversation, is to have them. Life is too short to wait until tomorrow to say something you could today. It is too short to "call tomorrow" or do it later. It isn't wrong to tell your friends and family how you feel, it isn't wrong to express your feelings." - I wish you luck in the world of "dissed and pissed."
Okay, I am over it. I try real hard to keep things in perspective and to practice what I preach, but unfortunatley I am still human and my feelings get hurt. I will explain the two situations to you in person, Shady, and I would love your two cents on the topics. Glad to see you are back!...and you see the real reason one hurt so bad is because it was against my kid...which equals mama bear thoughts. You know..protect your young..find campers..eat donuts...
Thanks for the vocabulary lesson. As I am chillin in my crib, my seeds are sleeping in their beds, and my babys' father is enjoying 50 Cent and Timbaland on the VMA's. Peace- out!
Oliver, ain't it yo baby daddy? Not yo baby's father? Wassup girl? Yo.
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